Dear Birthmother,


We want to thank you for making this loving choice. May you have peace and comfort in the decision you are making. We are grateful that you have chosen a Christian agency where your needs and questions will be supported and answered.

We cannot begin to understand what you are going through, the questions and emotions you must have running through your mind. We have been thinking about adoption for several years as well as the courageous choice you are making for your unborn child. Today as we write this, we are encouraged and amazed by Gods awesome plan. A plan affecting you, your child and our lives in the most incredible way.

We are Paul & Tara. We were brought together and married some eight years ago. Our life together has been centered on children; from buying our large country home, to Taras decision to be a work at home Mom. We feel fortunate that Tara has been able to work from home and enjoy the opportunity and many benefits it has granted us.

We were blessed with our daughter, Parker in 1997 and feel everything we have faced; a high-risk pregnancy to infertility struggles has made us the people and parents we are today. We feel every child is a gift from God. No mistakes are made; we all have a purpose and hope. Thank you for the hope you are giving your child. Parker anxiously waits for a little brother or sister. She has great selfless plans for either. Feeding, bathing and playing with a sibling rank high in her dreams.

Without knowing us, placing your child with us has to be the most difficult decision. We hope the following letter helps provide an image of us. This is your decision and we want what is best for you and your child. We can imagine no greater happiness than adding another precious baby to our family. We have a lot of love to offer a child and would be grateful and honored if you would consider us to be your child's parents and family. Your decision to choose a loving family is not easy and we admire your selfless courage and love.

The wisdom you have shown in the choice for your child blows us away. Thank you again and know that we as well as others encourage you. You are in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time in your life.

Sincerely,

Tara & Paul


WHO ARE WE?

We are a simple (or boring as we sometimes think), every day young couple, fun loving and easy going. We enjoy the simply pleasures of life and each other. We so look forward to sharing our lives with another little one! We do most everything together.
Like getting groceries with Paul "driving" the cart. Beginning as friends many years ago has grounded our friendship. We attend a local Wesleyan church being involved in many activities. We help out with the weekly Youth meetings plus events and get togethers, and the church Nursery. We enjoy being involved with the different age groups, preparing us for the events and stages our children will go through, as they grow older. We'd hate to feel old and out of date! ~Laugh~

We love traveling and experiencing new things. We have traveled around Canada, the US and our favorite, Mexico. Within the last few years we created a yearly tradition of going somewhere. Last year, we traveled twice! Tara ends up sunburned every time but doesn't let that slow us down.

Paul enjoys bowling, fishing, carpentry, mechanics and anything involving working with his hands. Tara spends free time reading, scrap booking, and gardening.

Paul is gentle and kind, strong in what he believes and patient. He is very much a people person and a true man of his word. Paul loves being a Dad. He has always been involved right from the start with our daughter, diapers, feeding and caring for her. He hates being titled as babysitting when it is just he and Parker for an evening or day, when in essence, he's parenting or as he puts it, "just being a Dad".

Tara is compassionate, always doing something for someone else, nurturing and kind. Being a Mom is so special to Tara. She enjoys seeing things through the eyes of a child and the bonus of being a child again.

We plan on keeping the AA cultural heritage alive through books, music, videos and dolls (at a young age). We will also be joining diverse playgroups and specifically International Adoption playgroups. We have already attended one and can't wait to share our new child with this wonderful group. One of our friends is biracial. Pauls uncle is AA and two biracial cousins. Our children will be exposed to many cultures with AA traditions being embraced and incorporated into our family.

WHAT DO WE LOOK LIKE?

Paul is a 32-year-old Caucasian Canadian, 5'9, 240 lbs, dark complexion, dark hair and blue eyes. Tara is 26 years old French Canadian, 5'2, 180 lbs, fair complexion with freckles, brown hair and hazel eyes.


OUR OCCUPATIONS?

Paul is a Courier for Canada's largest Courier Company, Purolator. He has been with them for 12 years and enjoys his job. Many benefits like working close to home, working within the same town every day and interacting with the public. Paul will be taking 35 weeks of Parental Leave when we are blessed with another child. He gets more and more excited each day waiting for this special time.

Tara works from home as a Customer Service Representative for an Internet based business. Responding to phone calls and emails. This worked out so well for her and our family. Being home is her priority. She feels she has the best of both worlds, being home with our daughter as well as having a good job. We enjoy the flexibility this job offers as well as the benefits of being an at home Mom. From sharing and experiencing those first waking moments to play, feeding and interacting with the children through out the day.

WHERE DO WE LIVE?

Our large two-story home rests on five acres in a small farming community. There are cows, cows and a few more cows. It has three bedrooms, 1bath(2nd in the works), and large kitchen and eating area, office/play room together, living room, laundry room and entrance or mudroom. Plus a full basement, yet to be finished.

In front there is plenty of outside area to run around, play and create. There is a large front and back yard surrounded by trees. During the summer we enjoyed feeding and watching the hummingbirds, squirrels and Blue Jays. In the winter we build snow forts and do a lot to sliding. Being the biggest kid is always fun. We are the first one to break the trail and test it. We're still working on perfecting The Snowman. For some reason, they usually have a bad lean to one side!?!

We love our country location, surrounded by farms and fields. Quiet is the best word to describe our area! We enjoy the relaxing atmosphere as well as the convenience of several larger towns and two large cities within a reasonable distance.

We live close to Tara's family, 10 minutes away and only 1 1/2 hours away from Paul's family. Being so close to Tara's family is wonderful, they are a close family with many extended family members near by. There are cousins, aunts, uncles, grand parents and great grand parents. Whenever the chance or a special occasion comes by, we travel to Paul's hometown to visit with his family (parents, brothers, sisters and their children).

WHY ADOPT?

Infertility and has been apart of our lives for over six years. If we were able to conceive again it would be a high-risk pregnancy. We do not want to go through those struggles and frustrations again. We just dream of another child.

Our desire and focus is not to conceive, but to be parents again. Paul is from a large family of five; Tara is very close to her sister so we both want our children to experience that special sibling connection which we have with ours.

We hope to open our family, home and hearts to your child. Please know in no way is adoption viewed as second best or a last resort for us. This is an amazing option of extending our family, which words cannot express. We would be SO blessed to love another child.

Thank you for this opportunity. We hope that what you have read has
helped you picture our family. Hoorah to you for making a loving choice for your unborn child, whether we become the future family or another loving couple.

Legacy of an, Adopted Child

Once there were two women
Who never knew each other
One you do not remember
The other you call Mother
Two different lives
Shaped to make yours one
One became your guiding star,
The other became your sun
The first gave you life
The second taught you to live it
The first gave you a need for love
And the second was there to give it
One gave you a nationality
The other gave you a name
One gave you the seed of talent
The other gave you an aim
One gave you emotions
The other calmed your fears
One saw your first sweet smile
The other dried your tears
One gave you up
It was all that she could do
The other prayed for a child
And god led her straight to you
And now you ask me through your tears
The age-old question through the years
Heredity or Environment
Which are you a product of?
Neither my darling, neither
Just two different kinds of love.